“ I am going to take all this grief that surrounds me and make it beautiful”
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My baby Sally was born before her time. I delivered her on the 8th September 2016 and I lost both of my parents at a young age. Grief and loss are a journey both emotionally and physically. When I delivered baby Sally what I was left with was a baby bump and no baby. I wished to keep that baby bump, a small reminder of what was left of Sally. I have found, by listening to loss mums, they wanted a safe place to go with their post-natal baby bumps — some want to keep it, some want to get rid of it, it’s such a personal journey — a place they can go where they can stretch, breathe, move, talk, stay silent and meditate.
Pilates for Loss Parents is a journey…
SATURDAYS – ONCE A MONTH
I am a qualified Pre and Post-Natal Personal Trainer, Pre and Post-Natal Pilates Trainer, and have studied Sport Psychology, and currently studying Counselling and Psychotherapy. Grief and Loss Pilates is for mums at any stage after giving birth, and at any fitness level, it offers a safe, warm, comfortable place to go and move, stretch, breathe and grieve. A place where loss mums will be with other loss mums. Movement after any birth is important for our emotional and physical wellbeing yet, for loss mums, what I have found most apparent is they do not want to go to a class in a gym or a hall and have to explain their “baby bump”. They feel uncomfortable, intimidated and most of all … sad. Dads are also very welcome to attend my classes, as the journey of grief and loss is often for both parents.
Walk and Talk: Not everyone feels comfortable talking in an office on a chair, yet loss mums want to talk, they want to remember their birth, their baby, the details of their own experience. What I have developed is a concept that gives both body and mind a safe place to go. Walk and Talk gets us outside, and allows our bodies to move, to be in the fresh open air, and to talk at the same time. The reason Walk and Talk works is that, as the body moves, the blood ceases to pool and starts to move around the body, oxygen is then distributed to the brain and the muscles in the body.
Fundraising: Fundraising for Féileacáin: My way of a small thank you to Féileacáin was a fundraiser. In December, I organised a Pilates Class,in memory of Sally, of which all proceeds went to Féileacáin. In the end, I raised €2500. Féileacáin gets no financial support from the government so any monies raised is through kind donations from you the public. I was given a cuddle cot while in hospital a beautiful memory box and they offered me amazing support after I had Sally, I was offered counselling and the opportunity to attend their monthly group meetings. Feileacain gives bereaved parents a space to grieve, talk, cry, listen or just be, giving parents the time to remember little ones that did not stay……..